Nobody tells you this about destination weddings

The parts of a destination wedding couples learn late, from legal paperwork and smaller guest lists to guest costs, weather, vendors and planning at a distance.

The short answer

A destination wedding moves much of the cost onto your guests, so fewer people come and some who matter to you may not be able to. Getting legally married abroad often needs documents, translations or residency periods that take months, which is why many couples marry at home first. You'll plan with vendors you may never meet in person, in a climate and season you need to research. None of that means it's a bad idea, only that the planning is different.

Your guests pay the price

At a local wedding, the couple pays for most of the day. At a destination wedding, guests pay for flights, hotels and time off. That changes who comes.

The legal part is the hard part

Whether you can marry in another country depends on its laws. The UK government notes that local laws apply, and that couples can face barriers if they aren't nationals or don't meet residency requirements. US citizens can check each country's rules on the US State Department's country pages.

Planning at a distance

You'll likely book vendors by video call and read reviews rather than meeting in person. A local planner or venue coordinator can be worth more than at home, because they know which vendors turn up. Ask for contracts in a language you read, confirm the currency you'll pay in, and check what happens if a vendor cancels.

A wedding becomes a trip

Guests who travel far usually want more than one evening. That's why many destination weddings stretch into a weekend with a welcome dinner and a farewell brunch. It's more hosting, more cost and more planning. See what a destination wedding weekend looks like and the rise of multi-day weddings.

Packing, health and the small print

Guests travelling abroad need valid passports, and some countries require visas or have passport validity rules. The US State Department's country pages list entry requirements for US travellers, and other governments publish their own. Put a link on your wedding website rather than trying to answer every guest's question yourself.

Tell people early

Guests need time to save, book leave and arrange passports. How far in advance to plan a destination wedding covers the timeline. Send save the dates well ahead and include travel details on your wedding website.

Is a destination wedding cheaper?

Sometimes for the couple, because the guest list is smaller. But guests pay more, and travel, a weekend of events and remote planning can add up. How much does a destination wedding cost breaks it down.

Is my marriage abroad legal at home?

That depends on the country you marry in and your home country's rules. Check both governments' guidance before you plan, or marry legally at home first.

Should I pay for my guests' travel?

It's not expected, but tell guests early, choose a range of lodging prices and understand if some can't come.

How do I tell people they're not invited to a small destination wedding?

Kindly and early. How to tell someone they are not invited has wording.

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