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By Forever Farrah Published 2026-09-17.
The family roles that matter most at weddings, compared: parents, maternal uncles, godparent sponsors, koumbaros, chuppah escorts and elders at the tea ceremony.
Almost every wedding tradition gives family members a defined role, but which relatives matter most changes across cultures. In Western weddings it's usually the parents: hosting, walking the bride down the aisle, standing in the receiving line. In a Hindu wedding, the bride's parents give her hand in the kanyadaan and Punjabi maternal uncles have their own duties. Mexican and Filipino couples choose godparent sponsors, the Greek koumbaros crowns the couple, and Chinese and Korean elders receive tea or bows.
| Culture | Key family role | What they do |
|---|---|---|
| US and UK | Parents | Traditionally host, walk the bride in, head the receiving line |
| Hindu | Bride's parents | Give her hand in the kanyadaan |
| Punjabi | Maternal uncle (mama) | Gives the bride's red bangles; escorts her |
| Jewish | Both sets of parents | Escort the couple to the chuppah |
| Greek Orthodox | Koumbaros or koumbara | Exchanges the wedding crowns; often later a godparent |
| Mexican | Padrinos and madrinas | Sponsor rites such as the lazo and arras |
| Filipino | Principal and secondary sponsors | Witness the marriage; place the veil and cord |
| Chinese | Elders | Receive tea and give blessings |
| Korean | Groom's parents | Receive bows; toss dates and chestnuts in the pyebaek |
Roles vary by family, region and denomination, and many couples adapt them.
Emily Post notes that the bride's parents traditionally host, though today it's often both families or the couple. The host usually stands first in the receiving line, and the groom's family traditionally hosts the rehearsal dinner. Who walks the bride in is now a personal choice; see who walks you down the aisle. For seating them, see where parents sit at a wedding reception, divorced parents and stepparents.
In the kanyadana (kanyadaan), the bride's father, often with her mother, places her hand in the groom's. Some couples now adapt or skip it. In Punjabi weddings, the bride's maternal uncle has a prominent role: he gives the chooda, the red bangles she wears, and escorts her during key rites. See Indian wedding traditions.
In many Jewish communities, both sets of parents walk the couple to the chuppah. In Chabad custom, the fathers escort the groom and the mothers escort the bride, holding candles, and some families have grandparents join them. See Jewish wedding traditions.
In a Greek Orthodox wedding, the koumbaros (or koumbara, if a woman) has a real part in the service, exchanging the stefana, the joined crowns, over the couple's heads. Marriage in Greece covers the ceremony. It's traditionally a lasting bond, not a one-day job. See Greek wedding traditions.
Mexican Catholic weddings have padrinos and madrinas, sponsors who each take on part of the ceremony: placing the lazo (a rosary or cord looped around the couple) or presenting the arras (13 coins). Filipino weddings have principal sponsors who act as witnesses, plus secondary sponsors who drape the veil and cord over the couple. Couples choose them, often from respected relatives or family friends. See Mexican wedding traditions and Filipino wedding traditions.
In traditional Chinese weddings, the couple serve tea to their elders and receive blessings and gifts; see what happens at a Chinese tea ceremony. In the Korean pyebaek, the couple bow deeply to the groom's parents, who toss dates and chestnuts for the bride to catch, a wish for children.
A Yoruba traditional wedding is as much a union of families as of the couple: the families hold a formal introduction, the groom's party prostrates before the bride's family, and relatives dress in matching aso ebi cloth. See Nigerian wedding traditions.
Grandparents often have the most emotional role of all, even when tradition gives them no formal job. Many couples find ways to include them: a reading, a blessing, a place in the processional, or being first to receive tea or bows. Some families, as in the Chabad custom above, bring grandparents into the escort to the ceremony.
Siblings, cousins and family friends can also be given roles beyond the wedding party: welcoming guests, reading, carrying rings or leading a dance. For a family with a lot of relatives, small jobs spread across many people often go down better than a few big ones.
Traditions assume a certain kind of family, and many families don't match it. A parent may have died, parents may be divorced, or the person tradition names may not be the one who raised you. It's common to give the role to whoever fits it best, such as a stepparent, an aunt, a sibling or a mentor, or to share it. Explain the change kindly to anyone who might feel left out, ideally before they see the order of service.
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It depends on the culture. In Western weddings it's usually the parents; in Mexican and Filipino weddings, sponsors; in Greek weddings, the koumbaros; in Punjabi weddings, the maternal uncle also has a key role.
The sponsor at a Greek Orthodox wedding, who exchanges the crowns over the couple's heads and often becomes a lifelong family friend or godparent.
They sponsor parts of the ceremony, such as placing the lazo or presenting the arras coins, and often help with the celebration.
Often both sets of parents. In Chabad custom, the fathers escort the groom and the mothers escort the bride.
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